Happy Mother’s Day!

I have been told on a number of occasions by a number of people (I count 3 so far; my eldest sister, my dad, and my, er, mum) what an unfilial son I have become, particularly after I settled down, had my own family and am struggling to keep things afloat financially whilst trying to ensure the happiness of those that matter to me. I know the sacrifices parents make first hand because I see and make very much the same sacrifices with our own son.

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This isn’t a day to mark up your filial piety a few notches to show your appreciation to your mother; you should be doing that every day (Brian Richmond said that). It isn’t a day to judge your siblings for what they are doing with your mum, whether it’s not enough or too much (I said that). It most definitely shouldn’t be a day for retailers and restaurateurs to jack up their prices in the name of a special day (students around the island who try to celebrate Valentine’s Day say that)

It’s a day to remember the person that gave you the rest of her life so you could live yours. Making this one day extra special isn’t going to relieve the work she has done, and continues to do, or make up for the sacrifices and suffering she’s had to go through. You just need to make sure that your mother already feels extra special because of her children – you – and the love you have for her that you’ve been giving from the moment you’re born to the day that you die.

If filial piety is judged upon what I’ve done for my mother, then I’ve been a terrible son and all these words mean absolutely nothing. But my love for my mum has never died; life just got in the way, and words are pretty much all I have right now, so if these words hold any meaning for you, or has touched you in any way, do something about it.

3 thoughts on “Happy Mother’s Day!”

  1. Hi there,
    Like you and many asians in general (myself included), have not been brought up to express affection. I too struggle with connecting with my parents, esp after settling down. Every attempt to connect and get close to them has in 1 way or another backfired and things remain statusquo. The best I can do now is to teach my own sons how to show affection to the people they love.

    1. Parental relationship-building should start when your kids are really young; you’ve already set the standard by being there for your sons, so good on you.

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