You may have caught me on TV fumbling for the first half hour of the panel discussion on work-life balance on Talking Point a couple weeks ago. If you did, I apologise for fumbling for the first half hour. If you haven’t, it’s here: Again, sorry. But the Blogfather had his reprieve when a caller … Continue reading We’ve Got Work-Life Balance All Wrong
2 years ago, yesterday. It was a Friday. “Can I speak with you, downstairs?” I said to my editor. She looked up at me as I stood next to her. “Uh, sure. Could you give me about half an hour while I clear out my morning routine?” “Of course, take your time. I’ll be waiting at the coffeeshop … Continue reading Making the Blogfather: Turning Point
In one of the last coffee sessions I had thanks to the cover letter I wrote, I took an editor job with a company that had a good focus on family (judging from the category of content they dished out at least), and the person who interviewed me was kind (or crazy) enough to overlook the fact that I … Continue reading Making The Blogfather: Dark Days
amicably, but regrettably, and in what on hindsight now seems like a recurring trend in my abrupt life-changing moments, it began with a quarrel.
it takes a very strong mind and an even stronger heart to watch people bickering over large amounts of money, and witness marriages break apart on an almost daily basis.
At the end of every work day, when I decide to leave at 6pm sharp, I do so knowing I leave a trail of talk behind my back. To some, my leaving on the dot is an inconsiderate act, a disruption of work processes, a disregard for timeliness, even disrespect. This mindset exists not just in my own workplace, but in many organisations around Singapore, if not the world, wherever there exists such things as an “office” or a “work culture”.
Yesterday I was filling out leave forms so I could bring the Wife to her gynae appointment,? and in anticipation of her delivery. When I got to the “Reason for leave” field in both forms, I wrote in the first one: “Gynae appt (wife, not me)” And on the second: “Giving birth (wife, not me)” … Continue reading Taking Leave, The Blogfather Way
We were visited by a door-to-door charity spokesperson last Saturday. My son stood next to me at our half-opened flat door with me in my sleeping clothes as the guy on the other side immediately raised his house solicitation card and his other hand in defense, blurting out as his first words of greeting, “Don’t … Continue reading The Non-Working Adult
I sat on the “National Conversation” for quite a while without commenting, particularly when it came to our terrible fertility rate. I know a number of fellow blogfathers who have jumped in on the discussion already (namely, Sengkang Babies, J Babies’ Dad and Daddy Nivlek); I was also knee-deep in covering the opinion of various … Continue reading Your Job – The Ultimate Contraceptive
Dear Xander, It’s been a month and a half since I switched careers to become a writer. You might have noticed it isn’t the easier of transitions; for one, I haven’t written to you or a while. Sorry about that. I took this enormous leap of faith knowing it will be an entirely new experience, … Continue reading Chasing Dreams is Hard Work
I received a new laptop yesterday. Prior to that, I haven’t had a working computer at home for almost 2 years. I raise eyebrows every time I tell people I don’t have a computer at home. They’d ask, “How do you blog?” “My iPhone”, I answer. In fact, I’m doing it right now (WordPress just … Continue reading Chuck Your Home Computer. I Dare You.
It took a simple couple of sentences from your mother, repeated about 2-3 times over the course of the last 3 years (since you were born, actually) to make me get off my arse and find out exactly what was causing this rut that I had been in. She said to me, “I would rather you be well-fed and happy than hungry and angry. When you’re happy, Xan and I are happy; that is the simple truth.”